Am I a bad Person – Is that Why he Cheated on Me?

Women everyone take the blame completely upon themselves when their husbands cheat. Not all women do but enough that it is a problem that needs to be addressed. Now is not the time to be riddled with self-doubt and questions like "am I a bad person that drove him to cheat?"

Now, more than ever, is the time to understand that you are not all good or all bad. Neither is your husband. He can still be a good man and do something bad like cheating on you. Good people do sometimes do bad things. But, and here's the really important thing, you have the power to decide if you are going to be what you feel is a good person or a bad person. Only you can make that happen.

Yes Virginia, There are Good Men Out There

Chances are that you are married to a very good man. He probably works hard to bring home the bacon. He believes in being good and doing right but, like all of us, he is still human and may, on occasion, do things he isn't very proud of. The odds are good that cheating is one of those things.

He can still be a good man, a great man even, and do something bad like cheating.

Are You Going to Let His Cheating Define You?

The thing you need to understand and really concentrate on is how you will be defined by his cheating. Are you going to allow his acts of weakness to make you anything less than you are?

Eleanor Roosevelt made an excellent statement when she said: "No one can make you feel bad about yourself without your permission." Don't let his mistakes become your stumbling blocks. His cheating doesn't mean that you are a bad person. It doesn't even really mean that you are a bad person for him.

It just means that there are issues, quite possibly on both sides of the relationship, that need to be dealt with in order for the relationship to continue.

Common Reasons Men Cheat

Despite the fact that so many women believe he cheats because the other woman is prettier, younger, or smaller these issues are rarely the case. These are the reasons men often state for their straying ways:

• Stress at home
• Grass looked greener
• No demands by the other woman
• Lack of respect at home
• Chaos at home
• Too many demands at home
• Opportunity presented itself
• Nagging
• Flattery by the other woman

As you can see, none of these reasons have anything to do with their wives being bad women or even with their wives not being attractive enough. Even if your marriage has ended over cheating it's not too late to get your ex back and make your marriage better than ever before.

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