Can Cheating be a Wake Up Call for your Relationship?

Published: 23rd February 2010
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Believe it or not, cheating can be just the wake up call your relationship needs to get back on the straight and narrow. This doesn't excuse cheating by any means. It doesn't make it alright and will not erase the hurt, anger, or betrayal of cheating. But, if you are both willing to work very hard to get through this trying time cheating can be the best thing to ever happen to your relationship.
Sometimes the biggest blessings in our lives are mixed blessings. No one wants to be cheated on and most of us never intend to have an affair. If you, as a couple, can focus on where you go from here instead of where you've been and what has gone wrong for the two of you, you just might be able to not only save your relationship but make it stronger than it has ever been before.

So, yes, cheating can be a great wake up call for your relationship. Here are a few things that cheating might tell you.

If a man cheats on his wife or girlfriend it usually isn't for the first reason that comes to mind. Most women feel that men cheat with a younger, leaner, or faster model. That is rarely the case. Men cheat because the other woman made him feel admired, respected, or impressive.

Men need to feel as though the women in their lives admire and respect them. They don't want to feel as though you look down, talk down, or nag them all the time. Learn now to make your man feel admired by you and you'll probably never need to worry about some younger, blonder, or faster model turning his head.

Women cheat for different reasons. A woman wants to feel special. She wants to feel important. She'll be wooed by the man who really pays attention to her. She'll be tempted by the man who notices the new perfume or hair style. She'll be swayed by the man who talks to her and, more importantly, listens to what she has to say.

The real zinger for women though is appreciation. A woman wants to feel as though the things she does (making lunches, cooking meals, taking care of the house and children, etc.) is appreciated. Even the non-domestic things she does for you will be much more willingly done if she feels that you appreciate her efforts. Let her know how much you appreciate her and the big and small things she does for you and you will probably never need to worry about her stepping out with another man.

If you've been caught cheating and want to get your ex back there is hope. Follow these step by step instructions: to get your ex back even if you've cheated.

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