Eliminating Resentment – Can A Better Division Of Labor Help You Get Your Ex Back?

In the days following your breakup there are many things that you're going to look back on and think "This is it. This is the thing that killed my relationship." The problem is, that is rarely the case. For the most part, relationships don't live and die on one event or situation. Most of the time, it's one thing displayed in a thousand different ways that leads to the beginning of the end. It almost always comes down to feelings rather than moments though.

Did you know that fighting can be good for relationships? You heard me. You know the fights I'm talking about too. The waking the neighbors, dishes flying shouting matches that some couples get into. Fighting is good – when it's productive. The problem is that a lot of fights never really resolve anything. In order to be productive you have to eventually get down to the heart of what's wrong. But very few people ever say what's really on their mind.

In most relationships it comes down to one of two things. It's a distinct lack of appreciation (for the women) or lack of respect (for the men). And those feelings almost always stem from the division of labor in the home.

Walk a Mile in Each Other's Shoes

Trade places for one day and gain new respect for what the other person does. It might be difficult getting everyone on board but it can also be an interesting learning experience about the whole "labor" dynamic in your home.

More importantly, you might get an idea of how much work the other person really does get done on a daily basis. The truth of the matter is that you both believe you do the greater amount of work around the house. This is your chance to prove to your partner just how much work you do and gain new appreciation for each other's contributions.

Ask for Help

Not everyone is going to agree to switch places. It takes two very strong people to do that. But the odds are good that if you ask for help in a way that lets your partner know you'd appreciate the help, you'd be much more likely to get it.

Nagging doesn't work. It only builds up resentment and gets valid requests ignored. It's not the way to get the help you're after.

At the same time, it's useless to get angry because he's not reading your mind or offering to help out. It's the scene from the breakup.

He's never going to want to do the dishes.

She doesn't WANT to do the dishes. But she wants them done while he could care less whether they get done or not.

That's the "disconnect".

It wasn't her wanting him to want to do the dishes. She wanted him to want to help HER and appreciate the effort she went to rather than playing video games and leaving her to clean up alone.

Learn to Appreciate Help, Gladly and Graciously, When it's Given

This is the final nail in the coffin for many men who do offer help. It's never good enough. It's criticized and/or condemned. Ladies, you're shooting yourselves in the foot when you do this. Don't.

Accept it with a glad heart that he's offering it and don't look that gift horse in the mouth. Don't ensure that he never offers to help again by telling him that it isn't good enough. He will never forget and will never offer to help again.

When you're not the one doing the work it doesn't have to be up to your standards. It doesn't have to be perfect. If it's not going to make someone sick or send someone to the hospital, just go with it.

Resentment does more to kill a relationship than anything else. Feeling unappreciated or disrespected can lead to prolonged feelings of resentment and most of the time it's over something as simple as the division of labor in your home. If your household has been torn apart over these arguments and fights in the past it's not too late to set things straight and get your ex back. The FREE video above can help.