Everything Feels Hopeless – How do I Move Forward After My Divorce?

Getting a divorce is painful. There is no easy way to go through the process or to find healing afterwards. For many women in your shoes, life can feel pretty hopeless after divorce for quite a while. But, your life isn't over yet. There's still a lot of living left to do. You just have to make the commitment to do it.

In the first few days after your divorce it took all the energy you had to get out of bed. But eventually, hunger drove you out of the bed and straight to the carton of Ben and Jerry's best hiding in your freezer. After a few days of exclusive dining companionship with Ben, Jerry, and a few other comfort foods you might have noticed that you've been wearing the same pair of fuzzy bunny slippers and flannel PJs for the entire time.

That's when it hits you.

You can't keep going like this. You're not living. You're existing. You're flitting from moment to moment but not really involved (mentally, physically, or emotionally) in any of them. You're numb because you believe there's no hope for happiness left in your life.

But there's something important you NEED to know right NOW!

There is LIFE after divorce.

It's worth living and you deserve to live it. The problem you're facing is that you're not only heartbroken because the divorce has happened but you're also carrying a huge burden of shame and guilt that it's all your fault and only you're to blame. That is never the case.

Just as it takes two people working together to make a marriage work, it takes two people not working together to make it fail. It wasn't all you and it wasn’t all him. You bear equal responsibility.

But, if you're completely honest with yourself, there's one thing you really want more than anything else. You want to save your marriage and get your ex back.

That might feel a little hopeless right now too but we're about to change all that. There is something you can do that will help you get your ex back but you're going to have to do a little soul searching in the first place in order to make that happen.

Why do YOU want him back?

It's a simple question but one that needs to be answered before you take any action to get him back. Leave all thoughts of soul mates and destiny behind. You need real, tangible reasons, that you need your husband, specifically, in your life.

Count the ways. Write them down. Make a huge list of all the things you admire most and respect most about your husband. Remember this list and make every effort, for the rest of your life, to teach him about the list of all the reasons he is the only man for you.

This will accomplish two important things. First, it will show him just how much you do love, respect, and admire him. Since this is something he needs from you above anyone else, it is something that he will truly appreciate knowing.

Second, it lets him see just how far you're willing to go to show him the love you feel for him. Don't just hand the nice long list to him. Draw it out over time and let him only see one thing at a time – day after day.

But first, if you want to know how to get your ex back for good, you're going to need to follow an example that has a long track-record of success like the one in the link above. Go right now and watch the video to learn all about the precise method that has been used to help thousands of couples around the world work things out.