Good People Sometimes Cheat – Does it Have to Ruin Your Marriage

You love your husband. This is the man you pledged to spend the rest of your life with. You took your vows seriously and believed he felt the same about his vows. He is a good man and has been a good husband and father.

But, in one day, everything changed.

Your world was turned completely upside down with the sudden realization that your husband has been cheating on you.

It would be so much easier if you could suddenly see him as the quintessential villain. You know the handle bar mustache, the evil laugh, and a hunched back to go along with it. Unfortunately, when you look at him you see the same man you've woken up beside each morning for the last several years.

You see the same man you loved yesterday and you just can't quite bring yourself to hate him today.

Is something wrong with you? Are you somehow broken that even in your heartache and hurt over what you've discovered that you can't muster up the righteous anger and indignation to hate the very sight of him?

There is nothing wrong with you. Believe it or not, he is still a good man. He just happens to be a good man who did a bad thing. The sad thing is that everyone is hurting over the mistake he made. Yes, even he is hurting over the deeds he has done.

It's important to realize that being a good person doesn't make him blameless in all this. He knew what he was doing when the time came. Even if he felt powerless in the specific situation he was the one who made the decision and he is the one that must live with the consequences.

And, there should be consequences. Even if your marriage survives this, and I honestly believe it can, he needs to know that this is not acceptable behavior.

The one thing the two of you must do at this critical stage in your relationship is sit down and talk about what is right and what is wrong in your relationship right now. You need to be open, honest, and be willing to hear the truth - even if it hurts. That's the only way you'll be able to move forward at the end of the day and realize that you can be a good person and do bad things.

The flipside of that though is that you can be a good person and still have bad things done to you.

Many women blame themselves when their husbands cheat. Is it possible that you could have done things that would have prevented his cheating? That's like asking if an extra twig in the dam would have made it hold more water back during a flood.

It is possible. Anything is possible. The truth of the matter though is that unless he says I'm thinking about cheating because you do this, this, and that, there's no way that you could have read his mind to know. Communication is key in not only preventing his cheating (his communication and your communication) but also in preventing it from happening in the future.

Even though you are both good people and cheating is one of the bad things that sometimes happens to good people, that doesn't mean that nothing good can come of the cheating. Use this experience to learn how to communicate better with one another and see how much pain and suffering it can save you in the future.

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