How Can He Be So Calm About Breaking Up?

I feel like the world has just fallen out from beneath my feet. How can he be so calm about breaking up? It seems like he's not hurting over this at all. What's wrong with me? Why isn't this hurting him as much as it's hurting me?

These are some of the things that are probably running through your head in the immediate aftermath of an unwanted breakup. No one likes being dumped. But for some people it's even harder to take because the other person involved seems so calm and collected.

Keep in mind though that you're just seeing what's going on at the surface. You have no idea how painful it was for your boyfriend to decide to break up with you. You have no idea what made him come to the conclusion that the two of you just weren't meant to be.

It's easy to want to paint him in the role of the villain. It wouldn't be all that difficult to do either – especially at a time like this. It would just take a little Sharpie marker to draw the handlebar mustache and devils' horns and you'd have the perfect image of a cartoonish villain to throw darts at or - whatever.

But that doesn't make him the villain you're imagining. Think about it. Before he broke up with you, did you ever consider him a bad person? Did he do things that made you think he was out to hurt you for no good reason? The odds are good that he didn't undergo some major personality transformation overnight. That means that he's still the same good, decent, and loving man you loved so much prior to being dumped by him.

So How is He So Calm About Breaking Up?

Chances are that he isn't calm at all. He doesn't want to hurt. He doesn't want to cause you pain. But, he feels that something is wrong in the relationship and ending it sooner rather than later will somehow make the pain less intense. He's trying to do the right thing for both of you by making a clean break of it now rather than an even messier break later.

He's coming across as calm and composed only because he's the one who saw this coming. He knew it was in the works and he made the decision to walk away. He has had time to work up to this moment and you're just now processing everything.

Where do You go from Here?

You now have two choices. You can get your ex back or you can move on with your life without him in it.

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