How Can I Believe He Will Not Cheat Again?

Published: 09th September 2010
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My husband cheated and it really turned my world upside down. How can I believe he will not cheat again? I don't know if I can handle going through this another time?

It's a question that is far too common among women these days and also one that has no easy answers. The bottom line is that you're going to have to make a few tough decisions based on what you know about your husband. Or rather, these decisions should be based on what you knew about your husband before you found out he was cheating.

Here are a few questions you can ask yourself that will help you decide whether giving your husband a second chance after cheating is worth the risk or it is truly time to end the marriage and walk away.

1) Did you find your husband to be a man of his word before you knew he was cheating? You've known your husband for quite a while. Did you believe what he told you before the lies to cover up his cheating began? Cheating sort of changes the ball game to some degree and his actions while cheating are not the actions of the man you married. They were an attempt to hold on to or save your marriage instead. Keep that in mind as you consider what your next move will be.

2) Do you believe you can forgive him for cheating this time? It really doesn't matter whether he'll cheat again or not if you aren't absolutely certain you can move beyond the fact that he cheated this time for the sake of saving your marriage. If you can't forgive this instance of your husband cheating on you it doesn't matter what you can or cannot believe about the likelihood of his cheating in the future.

3) What would he do in your shoes? You know your husband better than anyone. What do you think he would believe if you were the one who cheated on him? Do you believe he'd be willing to accept your word that you wouldn't cheat again? Can you extend the same faith in him that he would give to you? Can you do better?

4) Is there one good reason you have to hold on to the marriage you have with your husband despite the risk? In the end, there are no guarantees that he won't cheat again. There is only the two of you and the strength of the love you have for each other. Is that love enough to do whatever it takes, by both of you, to make sure that you can save your marriage and prevent him from cheating again?

Guarantees are great but there really are few that are available when it comes to efforts to get your ex back or save your marriage after cheating.

There is one guarantee you can depend on. You have to get the conversation started for real healing to begin. Sometimes you need a little help. Watch this free video to see what you can do to get started:

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