How Can She Forgive Me for all the Terrible Things I Said?

When my girlfriend broke up with me I was pretty hurt and angry. I said some terrible and hurtful things to her that I didn't mean. I just wanted her to feel some of the pain I was feeling. Now I want her back more than anything in the world. She says she wants that too but how can she forgive me for all the terrible things I said?

As strange as it seems, your girlfriend was probably feeling pretty low when she broke things off with you. No one wants to be the bearer of bad news. This isn't something girls go around doing for the fun of it – at least not decent girls that you'd want to give a second chance in a moment of clarity. She also probably didn't enjoy being on the hot seat when you were giving her a list of all her "virtues" that was born from the hurt and anger you were feeling at the moment.

She probably understands more than you realize what brought on those things. She also understands how guilty you feel about saying them. If she's trying to work things out with you after she was the one who called things off then she knows that she has a few things to apologize for too. No one is ever perfect when a relationship ends. There is no one that is completely blameless nor is there anyone who is completely at fault.

What this means is that you both have a few things on your plate to forgive and to be forgiven for. She understands this and you should understand this too. She has done wrong just as you have. If she's willing to put the past behind her in hopes of moving forward together, and you're interested in doing so, then why not give it a try?

Yes, you could get hurt. That's the risk you take at any stage of any relationship. You already know you love her and you've probably wished a thousand times a day for a second chance with the woman you love. Now, she's offering you that second chance. Are you gong to reach out and grab it by the horns so you can ride off into the sunset together or are you going to let it slip through your fingers yet again?

Now is the time to act. If you don't take decisive steps now to get your ex back after a breakup then maybe you aren't ready for a relationship after all. If you are interested in a second chance then take her up on her offer. You have so much to gain if you do.