How do I Deal with the Mixed Messages My Ex is Sending Me?

Published: 23rd May 2011
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My ex is sending me all kinds of mixed messages. I don't know what to do. I'm still hurting from the way she left. I don't know what these messages mean but I'm not sure I'm willing to risk my heart again right now. How do I deal with the mixed messages my ex is sending me and keep my sanity and my heart intact?

I love you.

I hate you.


Don't go.

Sound familiar?

Is your ex sending you more than your fair share of mixed signals these days? It's sometimes hard to figure out what she wants from you and you're probably not sure you want the heartache or the headache of trying to sort it all out.

You've been there and done that and you're not sure you want any part of it all over again at least not until she's sure what it is she wants that is.

You still love her. There's no denying that. But you're not sure your heart can take another blow like the one that was delivered when she dumped you before. And you know what? There's no shame in that at all. You shouldn't be too willing to lay it all on the line and risk your heart like that again. You deserve better than that and she owes you more than that.

So, how do you deal with the mixed messages your ex is sending you?

Be Honest About Your Mixed Emotions

Let her know that you're still hurting and not willing to take a risk on something that she doesn't seem to be sure about herself. Even telling her is a bit of a risk. She may decide to walk away. But, it's better that she decides that now than after you've reinvested your heart in her and the relationship you thought was over.

Tell her that she needs to figure out what she really wants from you but that until she knows you'd appreciate it greatly if she stayed away from you. This gives her incentive to really know what she wants before she comes calling again and it lets her know that you're not just going to be a pushover for her whims.

When you stand firm in your dealings with your ex it can be frightening. You do love her and you are still hurting. You want to believe in this opportunity but you're afraid to even dare to hope. But letting her know where you stand gives you some power and control in this situation. That's a good thing.

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