How Do I Make Him Love Me Again?

My boyfriend says he doesn't love me anymore. We've been together forever and I can't just stop loving him because he says he doesn't love me. I know I can make him love me again. I just don't know how. How do I make him love me again so we can get back together and have the happily ever after we've been talking about?

It would be great if you could just snap your fingers and make him love you. Unfortunately, love doesn't work that way. Just like you can't make it stop by flipping a switch. You also can't simply flip a switch to turn his love for you back on. The good news though is that it's probably not nearly as far beneath the surface as either of you believe at this point in time.

There are some things you can do that will make him remember the love he has for you and even fall in love with you all over again. Many people mistake that "in love" feeling with love. There are many degrees of love. You just have to show him that the love is still there.

The Mistakes that Many Women Make

There is one mistake that many women in your position make. It's the mistake of becoming a doormat in order to attempt to win him back. Unless you were a doormat from the very beginning (and I hope you were not) then this isn't going to be the way to win his affections all over again. Chances are that he loves the spirit you have and the sparks that fly – in a good way – between the two of you. If you give that up, you're giving up your ace in the hole and may have to look for new ways to get your ex back before too long.

The other mistake that can destroy your chances for making him love you again is the mistake of living in the past. Instead of looking to the past to find a solution it's time to focus on the future. You can bring the positive things from the past with you in this new age of your relationship.

But you need to leave the baggage of the past behind. Don't bring the fights of yesterday into your relationship now; it will do much more harm than good. Instead, find new ways to communicate better, stop nagging, and don't point out his flaws. Make him feel like the most important, strongest, and best man in the world and he'll be putty in your hands.

When you avoid the mistake of the past the only thing that remains is to make him remember all the reasons he fell in love with you in the first place. Let him see you at your best and you'll get your boyfriend back before he knows what's hit him.