How Do I Move On After My Divorce?

I've been spinning my wheels for a while now and living my life in a constant state of limbo. I'm stuck and have no idea where to go from here. How do I move on after my divorce when I can barely manage to get out of bed in the morning?

Facing the world, let alone the day, after a divorce can be extremely difficult. Not only are you struggling with this overwhelming sense of loss because the love of your life is gone but you're also feeling the painful crashing down to earth of so many hopes, dreams, and plans you had for the future.

It's only made worse by the fact that well-meaning people are all too willing to offer advice that may be well-intentioned but still seems judgmental and hurtful. You feel as though the eyes of the world are on you and they are condemning you as much as you happen to be condemning yourself.

The thing is, it takes more than one person alone to make or break a marriage. This isn't your fault alone. There is no one completely evil person in this scenario. The truth of the matter is that mistakes are made all around in marriages – even the ones that last.

Here's what you need to do to move on after your divorce:

Forgive Yourself

You better believe that's the first step. It's also the most difficult. It will take a little time but you need to start practicing with the small stuff and then work your way up to the bigger problems and pains in your life.

The more you practice forgiveness, the better you will become at offering it. You can practice on other people if you aren't ready to forgive yourself just yet. But you do need to forgive yourself for being an imperfect person before you can really move on after your divorce.

Give Yourself Permission to Cry

It's OK to cry after a divorce. Life is about the pleasure and the pain. You need to take a few moments to experience the laughter and the tears in life in order to fully live. This might not be a time when you want to dwell on the emotions you're going through but you should experience them.

You should not try to stifle them either. It's good to have a good cry or two. If you're having a hard time letting the tears flow – many women in your situation do have trouble with this – consider renting a sad movie and bringing a box of tissue as your movie night companion.

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