How Long Should I Wait to Get My Ex Back?

Are you heartbroken over a recent breakup? Are you desperate to get your ex back? Are you willing to do anything within your power to make that happen? How long as your willing to wait to get your ex back?

Most people in your situation feel a certain sense of urgency about getting back together with an ex. Unfortunately that sense of urgency, as natural as it feels, could spell certain disaster for your efforts to win back the heart of your ex and get your relationship back on track.

If you truly want to get your ex back you're going to have to do something that is monumentally difficult at a time like this. You're going to have to wait. And that's probably the last thing you want to hear right now. But, this is advice that will serve you well if you follow it to the letter.

The thing that will make an impression on your ex – especially in the days immediately following a breakup – is your absence. But, in order for it to have the desired impact, it needs to be your complete and total absence from his life.

This means that you can't be calling him in the middle of the night leaving lengthy voicemail messages. You can't send him a text message every five minutes. He doesn't need to see you at all on FaceBook or Twitter. You can't be eating in the restaurants where he's likely to be and you should never, ever drive by the places where he lives and/or works, even if you must go out of your way to avoid them.

He needs to feel what life is like for him without your sunshiny presence to brighten his days. He needs to understand what it means to not have you by his side for moral support, friendship, cheering, and the (ever so very) occasional kick in the rear. He needs the opportunity to really, truly, and deeply MISS having you in his life if he's ever going to come to the conclusion that he has to have you back.

And do you know the real beauty of this plan? You won't have to lift a finger to get him back or even to try to make him think that it was his idea to save the relationship either. In fact, if you put up a bit of struggle and show a few signs of hesitation when he comes back around searching for signs of interest, you can have HIM chasing YOU…all the while believing it was HIS idea! And you won't have to wait very long for this to happen most of the time.

But to answer the initial question of how long you should wait to get your ex back, the honest answer is as long as you are willing to wait and not one single second longer. But don't wait without a plan in place to nudge things along. Watch this free video: http://www.getyourexbacknow.com/just_break_up3.html to see what your opening move needs to be to win him back.