I Love My Ex – Can I Get Him Back if I'm the One Who Broke Up?

You are still madly and deeply in love with your ex. No matter how much you try to deny it or want to wish it away. So what's the problem? Get out there and get him back, right? The problem is that you were the one who did the dumping. You're not sure you even have the right to want him back much less get him back after you've caused him so much pain. So what should your next move be if you do want to get your ex back and make the relationship work this time around?

There are a few things you need to do before you make a single move to try to get him back.

1) Decide whether or not that's what you REALLY want. There's no sense in putting both of you through the process of confronting the past this way if you're not really sure this is what you want. Think it through a little longer and then you'll be better suited to decide if it's just the heat of the moment, a bit of loneliness, or a sincere interest in making your relationship work with THIS man that is driving your sudden change of heart.
2) Test the waters. Don't go in all or nothing. Test the waters a little bit before you lay your cards on the table. Talk to your ex. Look into his eyes. See if he even seems open to the possibility of talking to you much less of working through the problems of the past. If he has moved on, it won't be impossible but there will be a bigger battle on your hands.
3) Get educated. This is a good time to read up on couples who have had success in situations like these. There is a lot of great information available that can help someone like you get through this painful process whether it succeeds or fails. There will always be fallout. You need to know what kind of fallout you might be able to expect.
4) Make your decision and let it stand. This is not the time for indecisiveness or waffling. You need to make your choice and then stick with it well and good. It's not fair to you or two your ex for you to even try to get him back if you're feeling ambivalent about what comes next.
5) Get busy making it happen. Now that you've made your decision, whatever it may be, the hardest part, often enough, is to put the plan into motion. But it also has the potential to be the most rewarding.

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