Is it Foolish to Trust my Wife after she Cheated on Me?

Your wife has cheated on you. It may feel foolish to even attempt to trust her again but if you love her, is there really a choice in the matter?

Love is one of those pesky emotions that you really can't just turn on and off at will. That makes it a teensy tiny bit unpredictable. It also happens to be very closely tied to trust.

But the real question is whether or not it's foolish to trust your wife again after cheating? Unfortunately, it doesn't offer a simple solution.

A Bad Time to Trust?

There actually is a time when it's not a good time to trust your wife after she has cheated on you. That time will be any time when nothing has been done to address the cheating or solve any problems that may have contributed to her cheating.

In other words, if you haven't made progress in the relationship and worked together to get to the bottom of things then it is not the wisest time to blindly trust your wife again.

This is the one time when it could be very detrimental to risk your heart again. Proceed with caution. Guard your heart and make her earn your trust this time around.

Right Place, Wrong Time

It's also important to take notice of the fact that her cheating did not suddenly make her completely untrustworthy on all levels. There are some areas where you should be able to continue trusting her as you always have.

Your heart isn't one of those places but until she proves there's a reason to distrust her in all roles of your marriage it would be the wrong time to eliminate all trust from the relationship the two of you share.

Figure out where you can trust her now and where you'd rather have a little more time, distance, and diligence on her part before opening the floodgates all over again. You'll both be better off as a result.

Right Time; Right Place

After you've spent a little time exploring what went wrong, taking steps to make those things right, and she has worked long and hard to earn your trust by being consistently honest and reliable over time then it is the right time and right place to trust her again.

This is after you've both worked long and hard to define your relationship, set goals for the future together, and really work to meet those goals. It is also when it is definitely not foolish to trust her again after she cheated on you.

Of course, there are times when time and distance has led you to one conclusion: what you really want is to get your ex back.

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