Is it Possible to Have a Successful Relationship After Cheating?

Published: 05th July 2011
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You've just found out that your boyfriend has been cheating? He wants a second chance. You have your serious doubts. You're not even sure relationships can survive very long after something as hurtful as cheating has taken place. But the fact remains that you do still love him even knowing this. You want to make it work if it's possible. More than that, you want to know: "Is it possible to have a successful relationship after cheating?"

Relationships are not one size fits all. Every relationship is different from the others to some degree. Cheating doesn't impact everyone the same. You may feel betrayed but it might not be a deal breaker for you while it is the ultimate betrayal to another woman.

No one likes to discover her husband has cheated. No woman wants to be cheated on many times. You can make it clear that this is not behavior that will be tolerated nor is it behavior you find acceptable. But it doesn't have to be an action that ends your relationship and all the positive things you've both worked so hard to create together.

Here's what you need to do if you're going to make your relationship work after cheating.

1) Establish ground rules. It's time to lay down the law in your relationship. You need to define what constitutes cheating, what the penalties for future cheating will be, and some form of "punishment" or "penance" for the act of cheating this time around. No matter what, he can't get through this without paying the piper to some degree or your relationship will have a hard time overcoming this particular transgression.
2) Work on the problems you have in your relationship. No matter how good things seem in your relationship, cheating rarely happens without some sort of discontent. It's time to get down to the heart of things and find out what's really going on.
3) Come up with a plan to rebuild trust and give your partner the opportunity to redeem himself. Forgiveness and redemption play a huge role in the dynamics of the relationship post-cheating. You might have to really practice to get it down good but the more you practice forgiving others, the better, more beautiful, and more exciting you'll find the world you're living in.

Yes you can have a happy and healthy relationship with the person you love most even after cheating. But that doesn't mean you have to blindly accept the actions now or in the future.

If you want a long and happy marriage ahead of you or just want to get your ex back after cheating has ripped you apart, you're going to have to do one thing first. You need to watch this free video: and learn the secret art of making up no matter how big the transgression seems at the time.

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