Is My Girlfriend Still In Love With Her Ex?

I know my girlfriend dated someone else before me. I know he ripped out her heart and left her reeling. I love my girlfriend like nobodies business but it seems to me that she is always going to have this weakness for her ex. Does this mean she's still in love with him and not me? What does that mean for our relationship?

First of all, it's important for you to understand that there is a small part of her that will ALWAYS love this other man. He's gone from her life now and her heart is bearing some pretty big scars because of him. That doesn't change the fact that once you really love someone you never completely stop. But, the good news for you is that this has nothing at all to do with her being IN LOVE with her ex.

There's nothing you can do that will make her stop loving her ex. There's also nothing you can do that will make her stop loving you. You can turn the love down quite a bit or even fan the flames a little to make it burn brighter but you can never completely make or break the love one human being has for another.

The bigger question to ask in your situation would be something like this: "Is my girlfriend's love for her ex going to be a problem for our relationship?"

This is a question that you need to know the answer to. Most of the time it isn't going to be a problem for you. The rare exceptions arise when the ex has realized the folly of his ways and is trying to woo her all over again. The good news is that she has you this time around to keep her grounded and show her what a genuine and unselfish lover you can be. The best way to save your relationship is to be the man her ex wasn't. You know be the man who won't break her heart and leave her alone and crying.

In the end, there are all kinds of things you can do to try to get her attention for you and turn it away from her ex. If you don't play your cards right at a pivotal point like this in your relationship you could find yourself trying to get your ex back after she leaves you for her ex before you know what's hit you.