Is There Hope For Our Marriage After Separation?

Published: 17th May 2011
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Our marriage was strong for many years. Then things just seemed to nosedive. We were able to work together to get the kids out of school but once they were gone our marriage just seemed to fall apart for lack of purpose. We're separated now even though we know we still love each other. Is there anything we can do to make our marriage work? Is there any hope for our marriage after separation?

It seems that you have two very important elements working in your favor here: time together and love. The fact that you still love each other even though you're separated is a huge good sign in your favor. You might not think you are able to live together anymore and you may have had more than your feel of bad blood between you in recent months but there is also a long history filled with a lot of love.

The empty nest marital problems are much more common than most people realize. It comes from putting your children before your marriage for a long number of years. When the children are gone you find that you've grown apart and only seemed to have had the children, and your love for them, in common all these years. It's a sad moment for you both and for your marriage but it doesn't have to be the end.

Here are a few things you can do that will give you both a new outlook when it comes to your marriage, each other, and the love you still have no matter how deeply you've buried it.

1) Start dating each other - again. You don't have to give up your separated status to enjoy a date night or two each week to reconnect and get to know the people you've become. It can be a critical step in learning whether or not you really want to save your marriage.

2) Talk about the past, the future, and what's going on with the two of you today. Discuss the dreams you shared for the future in the past and ask the really tough questions like "what went wrong?" You might find that it was more than the wrong priorities that led to your separation. More importantly, you might learn what you could do to fix the situation.

3) Consider working things out. It might seem too big to contemplate for the moment as much as you might want it. But that doesn't mean you can't work things out and make your marriage work.

Finding the right roadmap to help you find your way back to each other is a huge undertaking unless you know where to look. You can get your ex back and replace your lost relationship with something much deeper and better connected. You just need the right set of directions to get you there.

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