My Boyfriend Just Dumped Me – How do I Keep Going?

For many women in your situation the idea of going on right now might feel a little absurd or even impossible. But you have to keep on going even though it really does feel like the world should stop and take a break while you deal with your broken heart. You're going to be a little busy in the first few days after your breakup just getting through. Eventually you'll hit this "numb" state of being where you feel as though you're not having to tell your body to get up and get moving and better able to deal with the mundane, day to day, activities of living.

It will get easier to get through the day. The nights though are another story altogether. That is when you feel the most alone. During the day you have work to keep you busy and you can plan time with friends and family to help you get through. At night though, this is when you really feel his absence in your life. You want to talk to him but you know you can't. You want to share with him this funny story you heard or something mundane from the news but he isn't there. He's been a constant presence in your life for so long and now he's gong. You just want the pain to stop. Right?

All is not lost. There is still hope that you can make things better. Each day will get a little easier to face if you do these things. Small changes in your life can help you face the day and the world beyond your front door even while your heart is still breaking. More importantly, they can help you become a whole and healed person once again.

1) Start putting yourself first. It's time to do a little pampering R and R. Get together with your best girlfriend and spend the day at the spa. Get pampered and get pretty. You will feel much better about yourself when you are confident you look your best. If you've never done this you'll be amazed by what a difference it will make in your attitude about yourself and your ability to face whatever life throws at you. Try it. You'll be amazed by the difference.

2) Make plans for the future. Then you need to get busy making those plans happen. Had you discussed going to Italy at some point in the distant future? Go on your own. If this was your dream, do it without him. Make plans. Get estimates. Get a passport. Start saving. It's the little steps like this that take so much effort at first that lead you back to the land of the living. Had you talked about buying a house? Buy one of your own. It's time for you to start taking those "baby" steps back to the way things were before your heart was broken.

3) Get him back. There's nothing that will be more effective for healing your broken heart than getting your ex back will. It may take a little time and a lot of proper planning but if he's "the one" then nothing less than getting him back is going to keep you going. Making the plans to get him back will keep you busy and help you get through the hard days ahead. When you actually do get him back you'll find that life is so much sunnier.

There are ways to move on if you're not ready to get your ex back other than those listed above. Make sure you try to surround yourself with positive energy and people who really care about you during this difficult time in your life too.