Should I Break Up With My Girlfriend?

Many guys are asking this same question tonight. There's no absolute right or wrong time to break up with your girlfriend that works for every guy but there are a few sure signs that now might be a good time to break up. Before you make that decision though, it's a good idea to ask yourself one simple question. What if I break up with my girlfriend and then find out I want to make up with her? How hard will it be to get my girlfriend back if I do?

You see, the Internet and newspaper advice columns alike are filled with the same question by men from around the world who have called things off with their girlfriends only to discover that they wish they had waited. Now they want to get their girlfriends back and these girls aren't giving them the time of day. That's the sort of thing that happens when hearts get broken. So, before you take rash action and end things with your girlfriend, make sure that's what you REALLY want to do.

You are the only person who can really decide if you should or even are willing to break up with your girlfriend. The one thing you could do to help you decide is sit down and write a list of all the things you love about her. You know, all the little things she does that make you smile and drive you completely up a wall. All the things that make her such a lovable and wonderful person in your eyes. Go over that list well and make it as big as possible. Then, imagine your life without her doing and being all those things in it? Is that a life you want to live? Do you think you'd be able to get your girlfriend back if you broke up with her and changed your mind afterwards? These are important questions to ask.

There are times though when you should break up with your girlfriend. As difficult as it is to say, there are some relationships that may not be worth saving. The one situation that immediately springs to mind is abuse. If the relationship is abusive there is no reason to stay for either of you. It doesn't matter if you are the person doing the abusing or being abused. The relationship isn't healthy and the likelihood of real and lasting change coming anytime soon is slim.

Another time, for the sheer destructive force of it all, that you may want to walk away, is when there is drug and/or alcohol abuse in the relationship. Addiction is a hard fight to have and it can bring the entire family you've created down with it. As much as you love your girlfriend, if you or she is addicted to drugs or alcohol, it may be a bigger kindness to walk away than to keep trying to save your relationship again and again.