Why Can't I Just Get Over Her?

My girlfriend broke my heart. Life would be so much easier if I could just put her behind me and move on. The problem is that every time I hear a certain song on the radio, read a certain passage in a book, or catch a certain scent in the air all the old emotions come bubbling up to the surface and I feel like it's happening all over again. It's so fresh and I'm so raw from the experience. Why can't I just get over her and on with my life?

There are many different reasons that you might be having a hard time getting over your ex. The one big reason that most men in your position have such a difficult time is that there are still more than a few unresolved issues. You need some sort of closure with the relationship so that you can move forward with your life.

Of course, closure is hard to get when you're not exactly on speaking terms with your ex. You may have decided on your own to go no contact with your ex or she may have left you little choice by refusing to answer her phone or return text messages and/or emails from you. No matter how you got there, "no contact" can be a great tool to help you get over your ex girlfriend once and for all.

Cut Her Out of Your Social Circle

The best thing about no contact for you is that it gives you time to heal without the feeling of ten thousand arrows straight through your heart every time you happen to catch a glimpse of her in a crowd. When you're avoiding the places you'd expect to see her, the chances of running into her are much lower.

Give Up Social Media (for a while)

It's time to unplug from the social media machine that seems to drive you these days so that you don't make an attempt to get your ex back instead of working to get over her. Before you do, make sure that you remove her from your friend list and make a point of ignoring messages from her. This isn't about being petty but about protecting yourself from coming across her posts or name unexpectedly. Then tune out for a little while and find other more active things to fill your time.

Make New Friends

If you were together for any major amount of time, it's quite possible that your circle of friends was a shared group of friends. This means that you probably have withdrawn from most of them in an attempt to avoid seeing or hearing about your ex. It's time to get out there and make new friends so that you don't have the insult of loneliness to add to the injury of your broken heart.

It isn't easy to just get over someone who has broken your heart. The good feelings of love wouldn't be nearly as intense if the pain of losing at love wasn't equally intense. There are things you can do that though that will help you pick up the pace when it comes to getting your ex.