Why is it so Hard to Forgive my Cheating Wife?

Published: 04th August 2010
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I love my wife even though she cheated. Why is it that I just can't seem to forgive my cheating wife? I want to forgive her. I just can't force myself to look past how she has hurt me. Is there any way at all to save our marriage?

While it's sad to say, you are not alone in your desire to forgive your cheating wife and save your marriage. Many men around the world are wondering "How do I make myself forgive my cheating wife?" Unfortunately, there is no simple solution. You'll have to work out the specific details all for yourself. There are a few basics you can keep in mind though that will make your task infinitely easier to accomplish.

Understand that Perfection is a Myth

Far too often men place the women they love on a pedestal. The view from this lofty perch may be incredible indeed but no woman can live up to an ideal. They are human just as the men they love are human. Over time, they become exhausted by trying to live up to the expectations of the men they love and they fall. Usually, they fall in a big way, like cheating.

She never set out to cheat. She didn't want to hurt the man she loves. She just became so exhausted trying to be something that wasn't in her to be. Then, along came this other man who convinced her that he appreciates her just as she is without the expectation of perfection. He appreciated her faults, flaws, and all. It's hard competition for any man and even harder for the average woman to resist.

Perhaps it will be a little easier to find forgiveness for her now that you know some of the thoughts that may have lead her to cheat on you.

There is no Blameless and there is no Fault

The other thing you need to keep in mind as you seek a way to forgive your wife for cheating on you is that neither of you are completely without blame and neither of you are completely at fault. This is not meant to absolve her of all responsibility. She knew that cheating could potentially destroy your happy home when she did it.

That doesn't mean she took the risk lightly or that she didn't feel driven into the arms of the other man.

Is it your fault your wife cheated? Nope, she knew what she was doing and she's a big girl.

Could you have prevented her cheating? Now that's the ten thousand dollar question of a different color, isn't it? It's possible that you could have prevented her cheating. The problem is that it would have required action by both of you.

The real question you need to ask is this: If you forgive her and get your ex back can you keep her from cheating on you in the future?

The answer is a resounding yes but you're going to have to find a way to win her back before you can begin finding a way to keep her from cheating on you again. These free videos: http://www.getyourexbacknow.com/just_break_up3.html will help you take the first step in the right direction to get her back for good this time.

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